One of the biggest mental health pushes these days is self-love. A lot of advice columns will tell you that your stress is coming from not taking enough time out for yourself and not giving yourself all you need. Mothers have the hardest time making some space for themselves and getting a little “me time”.
It is important to indulge from time to time, and we have a few suggestions that you can do that without feeling guilty and without leaving undone the many things that need to be done every day and every week.
We suggest doing some small “me time” items each day, and then indulging in some of the more extravagant ones every week or month or so.
Take a Lunch Break
Many mothers don’t spend their lunch time to themselves. They eat with their kids and have to attend to their needs. It’s okay to leave some cartoons on for them once in a while and just go off by yourself in the house (as long as your kids are a year or older) and watch your own favourite show or just sit by a window and relax.
Have an Expensive Snack
Whether you are on a diet or on a budget, it’s important to make some room for those things in your life you love to eat. Whether it is a sweet, some coffee or just a bag of chips, you should be able to indulge every now and then. This can be an excellent stress reliever, so long as you don’t overindulge and make it a habit.
Take Your Kids to the Movies
If you put your kids in front of a big screen, then they probably won’t bother you while the movie is going on. Even children as young as a year old can be enticed by the bright lights and moving pictures for a good two hours in many instances. You’ll have time to appreciate the movie while your kid is entertained and not bothering you.
Take Advantage of Nap Time
If you still have kids that need to go down for a nap, set a time during the day for them to take their nap and plan something nice for yourself around at time. Perhaps you can put on movie to watch, spend some time cooking yourself a nice lunch, take a nap yourself or spend time talking to you friends and not have to worry if the kid is alright for the next hour or so. Some parents use nap time as a time to get all their most stressful work done, and that’s a good plan, but every once in a while, you should take the time to do something nice for yourself.
Take the Week Off Cleaning
House cleaning can be one of the most tiring and monotonous of all chores mothers have to do. Even if others in the house help out with the cleaning, the mother probably still has to do some things. Why not give over responsibility of those cleaning scores to others in the house for a week? Or better yet, why not hire a cleaning service to do the work for you for a few days? Alex, manager of DiamondCleaning Calgary says “You will be amazed at how freeing it feels to not have to do all that cleaning and to not have to worry if you did enough cleaning or if you got things as clean as you would like”.
Have a Date
This may sound simple, but it is one that many busy mothers forget. You have to make time for the children’s father, and part of keeping the relationship strong is having some alone time. If the kids are old enough, you can leave them home alone for a few hours. If not, you can hire a babysitter or leave them by a family member. It’s good to do this once a month or so to keep the spark in the relationship and de-stress from time to time.
Take Up a Hobby/Learn a Skill
A great way to create personal time is to learn a new skill or enjoy a new pastime. Whether it is collecting, painting, playing musical instrument, writing or some other skill or hobby you might enjoy, setting aside some personal time every week for this endeavour will be good for you. It can even turn into something that you can include the kids in at some point and teach them a new interest.
Include Your Kids When Possible
Just because you are indulging, that doesn’t mean that your kids have to be doing something else. Some the best stress relief comes when you are just having fun with your family. Stress can be created when there is friction or worry, but if your kids are a part of what you are doing and they are enjoying themselves, then there is no stress involved. Even infant can be included in your indulgences. You can take your infant or toddle ran a stroller and go shopping, go to the park or even visit a venue to see a performance of some kind. You don’t have to let the age of your child slow you down and keep you from enjoying things you live.
It is important for moms to indulge every so often. If you feel like you haven’t had any time for yourself lately because you have been too busy with your kids and all your other responsibilities, then take some these things into consideration. You may be able it fit in a few of them here and there, and if you do, you will likely feel your stress levels go down. You will be less likely to get irritated at the kids, and you will have something to look forward to through the week or month. By giving yourself a goal to work toward and a break to look forward to, you can create motivation that was never there before. That can be an incredible feeling and allow you to get more done and enjoy your free time more.