The truth is…
Dealing with loss is hard for everyone and it gets even harder when you realize on top of your regular grieving, you’ll also have to deal with your loved one’s estate.
In order to have a successful estate sale and continue on with your grieving process without getting overwhelmed there’s a few things you’ll need to be aware of.
Stages of Grief
The first and most necessary step in dealing with your grief is understanding the different stages of grief. These stages include:
Everyone goes through this experience differently and at different paces. That being said while you’re experiencing one stage, your family member might be experiencing another one.
One of the most important things to keep in mind is that when your loved one is lost, those around you who knew them are also grieving as well and everyone will express this differently, with different levels of openness and different levels of severity depending on each relationship.
Don’t Be Afraid To Seek Help
One option to keep in mind for yourself and those around you dealing with grief is to be open to professional assistance.
If you find that you yourself or someone you love is stuck in one stage of grief, this might be a helpful option to consider. There are many grief and bereavement therapists providing professional services that are all different so finding one that fits your needs and comfort level is essential. These programs are very helpful for dealing with the loss of a loved one.
Usually grief assistance and therapy is separated into two categories, individual and group. Both have their benefits and before deciding on one there’s a few things you need to consider.
Seek Help Together
Group therapy can be extremely helpful especially when your friends and family didn’t know your loved one or aren’t experiencing grief in the same way as you do.
A group setting can allow you to build relationships and hear from the experiences of others going through a similar experience. This setting allows you to understand that you’re not alone in this process.
This group therapy is especially important when it pertains to a pending or past estate sale. There will bound to be arguments on items and processes that go into the sale. Grieving together in group therapy may help you understand the angle each one is approaching the estate sale.
However, individual therapy also has many benefits. If you realize that you are not comfortable sharing your feelings and experiences with strangers, this setting might be better for you. Sometimes the causes of your grieving can be sensitive information and therefore having a one-on-one setting may be more ideal.
Transparency is Key
Regardless of which of these settings you chose, it is important to be open and honest about your feelings, emotions and experiences so that you can understand and deal with your grief.
In order to move through this loss and grief, you must take on steps to sort out your loved one’s belongings. Depending on the size of their estate there are different actions you’ll have to take. These can vary from a trip to donate their belongings, hosting an estate sale or dealing with their executor. The most important thing to remember in this process is that you’re not alone in your grieving.