You can come across information that it turns out that not all women experience pain during childbirth. There are women in labor who get sexual pleasure from the process of giving birth to a baby. Simply put, such process of delivery is called orgasmic birth.
Let’s try to figure it out whether the birth can give a woman physical pleasure and what it takes to prepare for a pleasant childbirth.
If a person hears for the first time about orgasmic birth, then, first of all, some masochistic ways of obtaining pleasure come to mind for some reason. However, specialists in this field assure that orgasmic birth has nothing to do with strange desires and fantasies.
You Need to Give Birth with Pleasure
“Enough suffering and fear! You need to give birth with pleasure, if possible, then with orgasm. For the first time, people started talking about such births in England. Today, orgasmic birth is incredibly popular in the United States.” In January 2009, the television documentary “Orgasmic Birth: The Best Kept Secret” was released on the television screens of New York. Director of the film is an international obstetrician in the field of natural childbirth with 26 years of experience. Debra Pascali-Bonaro believes that: “Women are able to experience a real orgasm during childbirth. Perhaps it cannot be called a full orgasm in the conventional sense of the word. However, by the power of emotions, it is such a powerful feeling of ecstasy that it will leave any orgasm far behind.”
How to Succeed?
Most women are afraid of the moment of delivery, imagining the pain, blood, and tears. Many people believe that a new life is born in agony. To move away from this stereotype, you need to have only a positive attitude, since the secret of orgasmic births is quite simple. First of all, the environment at the time of delivery should be comfortable, homely, in some way even intimate. The presence of strangers is undesirable. At an important moment of birth, only close people should be near the woman, with whom she feels safe, confident and calm. A woman who has already become a mother can help during the process of childbirth. An expectant mother herself should be relaxed and confident in her actions. And most importantly – as much water as possible. That is, in fact, orgasmic birth is most likely to happen if you give birth in water.
Debra Pascali is sure that if one approaches the labor organization correctly and has the right mood, then any woman can experience orgasmic birth.
Orgasmic Birth Is the Most Painless Way of Labor
The most painless and sensational kind of delivery is orgasmic one. Of course, not every woman can feel an orgasm during childbirth. But it’s still worth it to strive for painless orgasmic birth.
In order to achieve it, it is necessary to fully accept your sexual nature and stop being ashamed of natural things. Then orgasmic birth will become possible.
And most importantly – in the process of orgasmic birth, babies are born not in agony, but with a smile on their faces.
Orgasmic Birth Is the Path to a Perfect Family
Dr. Donna Reed commented on the fact of orgasm during labor:
– Orgasmic birth is very real. After all, the sensations that women experience during childbirth, by their nature and origin, are very similar to feelings during sex.
Orgasm during childbirth, according to psychologist Niles Newton, can be the starting point for ideal family relationships.
The boom called “orgasmic birth” began in January 2009. At that time the documentary film “Orgasmic Birth: The Best Kept Secret” appeared in New York. The film was created by the international expert in the field of natural childbirth with 26 years of experience and the leading expert of the Lamaze organization, Debra Pascali-Bonaro.
The film tells that childbirth is an integral part of female sexuality. Childbirth is a very important event in the life of every family and a woman should feel it to the fullest.
To feel orgasm during childbirth, it is necessary to understand that childbirth is, in fact, the highest point of natural pleasure that is known to a human being. That it is a miracle equal in meaning to the creation of the world by God.
American midwives claim: after orgasmic birth mothers don’t have postpartum depression, and children are born healthy and without pathologies.
Pascali-Bonaro directed a 2009 documentary, Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, to dispel myths about orgasmic birth and share information about it. She says the births she attended as a doula convinced her that orgasmic birth was something more women should hear about. In her work, she noticed that women could experience all kinds of enjoyment during labor, even if it wasn’t an out-and-out orgasm in the traditional sense. “I was at births and seeing people have great pleasure,” she says. “There was joy, there was ecstasy, there was bliss, there was a relief. There was a huge gap in our vocabulary about birth. People are comfortable talking about pain, but not about the transformation and the positive aspects.”
Film producer Debra Pascali-Bonaro witnessed many birth orgasms first hand while compiling her film Orgasmic Birth. “For some women, yes, the moment of birth is accompanied by the orgasm of their life: a sexual climax, full and sensuous, their baby moving through their body in the most joyous, loving way,” says Debra. “But others call the experience orgasmic in the way that eating a really good piece of dark chocolate might be orgasmic. An incredible ecstasy.”
How to Get Prepared for Orgasmic Birth?
A founder of the National Midwifery Institute, a professional midwife with 30 years of experience Elizabeth Davis in her book “The Rhythms of Women’s Desire: How Female Sexuality Unfolds at Every Stage of Life” tells about what it takes for an orgasmic birth.
First of all, the preparation for orgasmic birth is individual and unique as the way to orgasm in sexual relations. To begin with, you need to learn to understand your body well, to control your natural power.
As for a successful sexual act, for the orgasmic birth, you need to concentrate energy and feelings and relax in time.
What’s more, you still need privacy and a romantic atmosphere, as well as for intimate relationships. Because the same hormones that are necessary for sexual pleasure respond for an orgasmic birth. So, orgasmic births are possible only at home, as only at home a woman can feel privacy.
Stress caused by hospital procedures can suppress hormones necessary for orgasmic birth. That is why orgasmic birth is unlikely in the hospital.
Obstetricians should be ready for the fact that a woman during the birth can experience an orgasm. They should not be surprised but should take it for granted.
How to Experience Orgasmic Birth?
According to Elizabeth Davis, a certified midwife with more than 30 years of experience, former president of the Midwifery Education Accreditation Council (MEAC), every woman’s path to orgasmic birth is also individual, as well as to achieve orgasm during sexual intimacy. These states are similar in many respects.
Recollect what you need to achieve orgasm. Usually, this is the right attitude, concentration, moral and physical strength, etc. You cannot feel pleasure if your energy is running out. It is also important to relax and feel comfortable. Therefore, in order to achieve orgasm during childbirth, privacy is necessary.
Stress, medications, hospital atmosphere physically suppress the pleasure hormones. But it is now a question of a normal pregnancy and a healthy parturient child. In the case of any pathology, births surrounded by medical workers will help to avoid undesirable risks.
Recipe for Orgasmic Birth
According to the birth orgasm experts, these are the ingredients you will need to have your very own orgasmic birth experience:
- Silence (this doesn’t mean no music or moaning – it means as little talking as possible)
- A safe and intimate birth environment
- No drugs
- As little intervention as possible.