Unplanned pregnancy is a pregnancy, occurred without a specific plan, occasionally. But the unplanned pregnancy doesn’t mean “unwanted”. Though planning a family is a conscious choice of the modern person, many people get pregnant that natural way – without planning.
Unplanned Pregnancy Case
The best pregnancy announcement is an unexpected one. The unplanned pregnancy cases may vary on the background, so if you have a family, parents, income that may provide the baby – think of the unplanned pregnancy as the benefit!
An unplanned pregnancy doesn’t mean bad… Not at all. Many good things happen out of our plans and change our life for the better. Still, there are two ways out of abortion (which is bad, the Bible says, only God may kill children). I personally think I would never have the courage for an abortion unless I were raped, addicted, have an incurable transportable disease, or all of that together. And in case of danger for the life of both. Despite I think that the world is overcrowded and you have to think twice before getting pregnant and having sex at all, I still think that the unplanned pregnancy is not a disaster. While you are waiting for the “better time for a family” – people just multiply, despite anything.
Even if they are starving, taking drugs, and never getting sober. While you are thinking – the others are breeding a society, that the future generations will live in. I’m not spreading any fascistic ideas, just saying that there’s typical behavior of the definite layers of the society. And while those nerdy scientists, who could really improve our world with their genes, for I believe in science, are reading books, those, who don’t read books at all are passing time making babies. I don’t mind, that’s how the world spins. And that’s how I come closer to the topic of the article:
It’s good to be pregnant in modern society, sure if you’re not from the country, where the Pharaoh’s circumcision is practiced. I mean – being pregnant in Europe, the USA, Russia, Japan, and many other Developed countries and country unions, where the unplanned pregnancy doesn’t sound like a sentenсe.
We have medicine! We owe medicine for the low mortality rate at giving birth or carrying. And finally, pregnancy is recognized as a “particular state” and women are treated with respect to their state.
Sure, you get a lot of new cars, connected to the unplanned pregnancy, but think of the unplanned pregnancy benefits:
Giving Birth Is Stipulated By Nature
Naturally, we are programmed for 12-20 pregnancies during fertility life. And all the PMS issues, bad mood, menstrual uterus and ovaries injury and bleeding – are the drawbacks of the era, where women don’t get pregnant and violate the natural processes of their bodies. Maybe, we will evolve and live it through, and menstruate less, and become men eventually – nothing of that happens fast. So any pregnancy is from nature with love.
Your Skin Becomes Shiny, Like You Are 16
If you are a pregnant 16 – that would be the top of your shining skin!
Your Acne (If You Had Some) Disappears
Your hormones will now be directed to the development of the fetus, but not to the overproduction of the sebaceous glands.
Your Man Will Have To Be Patient
Remind him all the time – it is the joke of hormones. Even if you’re a bloodsucking bitch at all times – this time you have an excuse. You can give him some articles to read like Be a Pregnant man.
People Give Up Their Spots In Public Transport In Order To Keep You Safe
That works only if your pregnancy is noticeable. If you’re fat like… Fat people – that would not work.
Your Hair Will Grow Better (Still, Hormones)
Nature wants that your wrap your child into your hair, or something… I don’t know, but everyone says you’re going to have your hair growing faster. Same for your nails.
You Can Skip Work, And Go Home, And Watch “Breaking Bad” Instead
Just say “I’m dizzy… and sleepy!” Which is true. These are the normal symptoms.
You Can Look Like A Mess!
What? You’re pregnant! You are doing your job – incubating a life! Sure, you should observe hygiene rules, but you can look messy, wear stretchy clothes on your huge ass and he wouldn’t dare to say you’re bad looking! No awful truth! No, really – you don’t have to be obsessed with your looks. Not that much. A little bit wild. Like mother nature.
You’ll Always Have A Helping Hand!
Unless you’re asking for a light to smoke a joint. People don’t like bad mothers. One of my friends was throwing nearly killing glances at smoking pregnant, while drinking a glass of Chardonnay at dinner, being pregnant herself.
And that’s not a fraud – you actually have certain limitations and corrections in your daily routine. The unplanned pregnancy entails a lot of unplanned activity. Don’t let your pride take over and ask for help if you feel like it’s better that you don’t do something by yourself.
You Always Have Things To Do And You Are Not Bored.
You have to go to the doctor, give your blood for analysis, check your fetus in the US. Finish your unfinished shit, talk to your relatives and friends on the phone about your pregnancy, read literature. Really, read it! I found on the open sources a lot of useful information I have never applied later, but I definitely will. Later.
You Can Eat Whatever You Want!
It’s for the baby! Just repeat it every time someone is trying to catch your arm with a piece of Nutella-stuffed calzone-nachos pizza… “It’s for the baby!” Yes!
My favorite was to burp in public and blame the baby… I’m well-educated, I must say. I behave in the public. I’ve gained weight, and as I burped quite often on the last trimester – I referred it to the symptoms. So it was no lie! It was the baby! I did it so often, that it has become a habit.
So being pregnant is not that bad at all! Even though your pregnancy was unplanned. You start to feel your body better, you start to recognize your needs, your organism transforms. Isn’t that a miracle inside of you? Have you done anything more significant, unless you are a doctor and saving lives? I haven’t. and even if we are too many on the planet, too greedy, too obsessed, too sinful – there’s a chance that you are Sarah Connor – the mother of the great Neo, who’d save us all from ignorance. There’s a chance.
Born in Belarus, 1985, a pedagogue and family psychologist, mother. Taking part in procedures of social adaptation of the foster children in new families. Since 2015 is a chief editor of the motherhow.com project, selecting the best and up-to-date material for those, who are planning, expecting, and already having babies.